As we get older, responsibilities grow intense. We in love and later on, get married. But, marriage is not as easy as what you think it is. It takes proper decision making. It needs a whole lot of thinking before you finally say, “I do.” Getting married is crucial this is why you need to decide whether you are willing to face the challenges of having a partner and starting your own family. If you have decided to have your own family, you don’t only need to feed yourself. This time, you have children to feed with. Are you sure that you can raise your own children? If you are not ready, you better not try. It will be difficult. If you just get into this stage without considering your future and your children future, regrets arise. Therefore, seek proper guidance. Talk to the right persons. Don’t be shy. Your age is not an issue. Preparing for the possibilities of married life won’t happen in just a day or a week. Most men and women decide to finally settle in married life once they reach above 35. Is parenting over 35 years a lot easier? Is this age an assurance that you can handle everything? Is this age enough to finally settle? Some don’t consider the significance of the age when planning to start their own families but others do. What are the pros if you really hit 35 or more than before you become a parent?
Maturity is the first thing. If you become a parent right after you turn 36 then you are mature enough when it comes to many thing. Your level of thinking is totally different. You see things in brighter perspectives. You can handle stress even the worst. You are mature enough to handle little conflicts. You know what really your responsibilities are towards you partner and most importantly, towards the kids. Little children are very dependent. In everything they do, they need their parents with them. So, if an 18-year old mother simply cry when she is in conflict with her kid, a 35-year old mother will work on things than cry. Instead of regretting, you probably think of how to solve the problem. When maturity is ripe, problems can be easily solved.
At the age of 35 or more than, you already have a stable job and getting a stable job is definitely important especially if you have kids to feed with. Those who have no stable jobs who are already family men and women experience a lot of difficulties. Therefore, wait until you are stable before you build your own family. Wait until you get financially stable. This will lessen your financial concerns. Having a stable job can sustain the needs of your kids. When you reach 35, you finally have job, a good business or perhaps a little saving for the family.
Don’t be annoyed if you are not yet settled now that you are more than 35 years old. Its not too late. Don’t think that you are too old to marry. It is the perfect age, for those who like to prepare for a brighter future. It is the right age for settling down. For women, they can still get into pregnancy only that it’s a little difficult. Why? Fertility slows down and some don’t have enough producing hormones. There are also complains telling that they find it hard to play with the kids due to age. Well, put limits to what you can do. If you think you can’t run longer, take a rest. Make your kid understand. For those with pregnancy issues, they need to consult their doctors or change their old lifestyles.