Category: Being An Older Mom

Parenting Over 35 Years Old: The Pros

Posted by Martha – May 7, 2013

022 parenting over 35 years oldAs we get older, responsibilities grow intense. We in love and later on, get married. But, marriage is not as easy as what you think it is. It takes proper decision making. It needs a whole lot of thinking before you finally say, “I do.” Getting married is crucial this is why you need to decide whether you are willing to face the challenges of having a partner and starting your own family. If you have decided to have your own family, you don’t only need to feed yourself. This time, you have children to feed with. Are you sure that you can raise your own children? If you are not ready, you better not try. It will be difficult. If you just get into this stage without considering your future and your children future, regrets arise. Therefore, seek proper guidance. Talk to the right persons. Don’t be shy. Your age is not an issue. Preparing for the possibilities of married life won’t happen in just a day or a week. Most men and women decide to finally settle in married life once they reach above 35. Is parenting over 35 years a lot easier? Is this age an assurance that you can handle everything? Is this age enough to finally settle? Some don’t consider the significance of the age when planning to start their own families but others do. What are the pros if you really hit 35 or more than before you become a parent?

Maturity is the first thing. If you become a parent right after you turn 36 then you are mature enough when it comes to many thing. Your level of thinking is totally different. You see things in brighter perspectives. You can handle stress even the worst. You are mature enough to handle little conflicts. You know what really your responsibilities are towards you partner and most importantly, towards the kids. Little children are very dependent. In everything they do, they need their parents with them. So, if an 18-year old mother simply cry when she is in conflict with her kid, a 35-year old mother will work on things than cry. Instead of regretting, you probably think of how to solve the problem. When maturity is ripe, problems can be easily solved.

At the age of 35 or more than, you already have a stable job and getting a stable job is definitely important especially if you have kids to feed with. Those who have no stable jobs who are already family men and women experience a lot of difficulties. Therefore, wait until you are stable before you build your own family. Wait until you get financially stable. This will lessen your financial concerns. Having a stable job can sustain the needs of your kids. When you reach 35, you finally have job, a good business or perhaps a little saving for the family.

Don’t be annoyed if you are not yet settled now that you are more than 35 years old. Its not too late. Don’t think that you are too old to marry. It is the perfect age, for those who like to prepare for a brighter future. It is the right age for settling down. For women, they can still get into pregnancy only that it’s a little difficult. Why? Fertility slows down and some don’t have enough producing hormones. There are also complains telling that they find it hard to play with the kids due to age. Well, put limits to what you can do. If you think you can’t run longer, take a rest. Make your kid understand. For those with pregnancy issues, they need to consult their doctors or change their old lifestyles.

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The Best Parenting Tips For You

Posted by Martha – January 10, 2013

031 mothers impactThere is probably no better place in the world than home and good parenting plays such a crucial role in making the home a piece of heaven on earth. There are several things that you also need to consider when you want to be called a good parent. To begin with, you need to understand that there is no such thing as a perfect way in becoming the best parent because each child is so different and their needs constantly change as well. Common sense sometimes works, but children don’t always respond to motivators for the adult and this is something that you need to remember all the time.

Every child has different emotions of the moment and this very thing often drive their actions. It is also important that you ask your child’s grandparents what to do in certain situations because they have been there in that situation before. Yet, their understand might never be absolutely appropriate in your child’s situation but then they might also give you suggestions that are useful to you. With the ever-changing world and issues that grandparents never had to deal with, a skills list to help parents become better may prove useful. The list starts with having a consistent discipline. This simply means that you have to be fair and firm with discipline, but always act out of love. As you punish your child, you need to let him understand the reason why you are doing it. By doing so, he will do the same when he becomes a parent himself.

In addition, as you become consistent in your reactions, your child will always recognize the boundaries and will do all that he can to never disappoint you. Yet, you still need to make sure that your children know the rules and what behavior you expect of them. They should know the consequences of their actions. You also need to do a daily care with your child. No matter how busy you may seem to be you still need to remember that a good parent provides nutritional meals for her children as well as a safe environment. You need to teach your children to practice good hygiene; this something that they need to in still within them early on in their life so they can carry it on latter on in their life.  They do have a lot of daily living activities and keeping a good hygiene play a very important role in letting them do all of these activities without any hassle at all.

You do need to set a regular bedtime so your children get sufficient rest. No matter what happen, you need to make them realize that a goodnight sleep is a must and that this is there is no way they can be healthy without a proper sleep. If your kids are feeling sick then you need to take them to the doctor or dentist for preventative medical care and to help them heal when they are injured or sick. You also need to be with them the entire time so they can feel the warmth of your love too. The display of love you have given your child will make him to be among the most confident adult later on in his life.

Lastly, parenting is never meant to be easy but it is always worth it. You need to show your feelings constantly by hugging your child, touching and telling him words of endearment, and doing little things that make him happy. As he achieves something you also need to show love and pride so his self-esteem will be boosted and this will make your child a whole individual.

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Mothers’ Impact To The Kids

Posted by Martha – December 12, 2012

031 mothers impactMother’s impact to their kids is really powerful. They don’t just raise kids to become good leaders in the future. They don’t just provide them their basic needs such as food, clothing and shelter. Yes, mothers are most of the time left at home to take care of the kids. But, the world isn’t as simple as before. Now, the cost of living is very expensive. If the father cannot afford to provide everything just because his salary isn’t enough then the mother should do something. What do you think is the best thing to do? The mom can decide to engage in a mini-business wherein she can earn extra cash for the family’s needs. She can put up a little fruit stall, make her own portraits, sell goods, accept laundry, or even work away from home. This is why other moms prefer to work even if they are not with the kids. But, as much as possible, they want their little ones to be with them. They find ways. These women are not just to take care of the children especially when their partners are not around. Don’t you know that they have the greatest impact to the kids when it comes to their beliefs, philosophies, attitude, and dreams? Kids are really attached to their moms because they are their number one idols. This is why mothers need to be more than 100% careful with what they say, what they do, what they feel, and what they want their kids to become.

Moms do their best to raise their kids. They want nothing but the best for them. They want nothing but to see their kids as productive and settled in the future. In many ways, they finance schooling, buy healthy foods, offer them clothes for good, treat them during birthdays and the like. The kind of mother you are will have an impact to your kids. In what way do you think your character and beliefs will affect them? If you used to be caring and thoughtful to the kids then for sure, they’ll do the same. If you give importance to every school activity, little achievement and weekend then they’ll grow seeing the big importance of spending quality time with the people they love. If you are strict but you admit your faults when needed will make them think that it is not wrong to commit mistakes once admitted. As what we used to say, mother’s knows best. This is real.

When it comes to the character of the kids, what they show off to others are the things they have learned at home. A child learns so many things at home. His ABCs, her moves, his emotions, his beliefs, his attitude towards the realities of life, and more can be traced back to his very home. For sure, her mom is her greatest idol. He tries to follow the recipes made in the kitchen, speak the way his mama did, think just like her, and even models the good behaviors. For starters, teach your kids how to become responsible. Tell them that you can’t be with them all throughout their lives. Give them responsibilities you think they can perform better. Having a good job is cool. Now, when you bring your kids sometimes at the workplace, don’t act negatively. Let them see how rewarding it is to own a job and get paid.

Mothers are often strict and good in handling finances. Yes, we work to earn. But, there are still other reasons. At their very young age, kids should know the right connection between work and cash. They should be taught how to save enough and spend right. See what can a mother do to her kids?

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What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Parenting Over 35 Years Old?

Posted by Martha – October 9, 2012

You are born in this world because of the love of your parents. And as you grow older you are also destined to fall in love and get married. Getting married is a crucial process that is why you must weigh yourself if you really want to accept the challenge of having a family. Your parents accept the challenge of raising a family and having children to feed with. They accept the responsibility and they work hard just to feed you and send you to school. As you watch them work for your future do you really want to follow their footsteps? Do you really want to enter married life and raise children of your own? Parenting will be difficult especially if you are not ready. This will make you miserable and regrets will start to arise if you just get into this relationship without planning and consultation. Although you are the one that will decide, you still need to seek advice from your parents and friends. As you know they are the ones who are experienced therefore seeking advice from them will somehow clarify your mind and will prepare you also for the possibility of married life. But as you decide about this kind of life many men and women don’t want to be hitched unless they will reach the age above 35. Is this age old enough to get married? Getting married in this age has an advantage and disadvantage.

 

The advantage of parenting over 35 years old is that the person involve is matured and stable already. One of the issues in our society is that many people are getting married without stable job thus the situations of our society worsen. Therefore it is very important to make a family in right age so that you can provide the needs of your children. When it comes to financial aspect, this age can sustain the needs of the family. By this age the couple has already their job, business or perhaps a house for the family. Therefore, they will encounter fewer problems when it comes to money. And when it comes to emotional aspect their maturity is ripe already thus they can handle problems easily. Matured individuals’ creates harmonious relationship. It is because problems are settled properly by the person involved and both of them cooperate. Whereas if the two person married in early age. Some of them will end up on divorce since they know that they are not compatible as husband and wife. Aging over 35 doesn’t mean you are old already. It is just you are preparing for the future of your family so you want to have all your means before settling down. Aside from all of this, this age also is the right time for you to experience total happiness. A relationship wherein you can weigh the right and wrong hence making a decision will make you and your partner got a good result.

But parenting at this age also causes disadvantage to you and your partner. To a woman getting pregnant will be difficult already. It is because women undergo a menstrual cycle. And when a woman ages, producing hormones deteriorate and fertility becomes impossible. Next is for men. If a man gets older although they continue to produce hormones they are the first to deteriorate than women at that age. That is why it is advisable for men to get married early. Thirds is that parenting will be difficult for both parents. Why? Because if you grow older you will find it difficult to play with your children and your children will more likely suffer if you retire.

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Advantages Of Being An Older Mom

Posted by Martha – June 11, 2012

Maturity plays a vital part in becoming a mother. Emotional, mental and physical preparations are necessary in assuming the challenging role in motherhood. Some people would also suggest that age is also an important factor especially in conceiving a child. Although no one has prescribed yet a certain age for motherly roles, some medical experts would say that a woman must be at least 27 years of age or higher even higher than that.

Early pregnancy is not a rare case these days. People find it rather acceptable whenever they see young ladies with a baby in arms or walking side by side with a child on the streets or in malls. Yet, for some women who got pregnant let’s say at the age of 16, regret is still the recurring feeling every time she makes a rewind of her life. She would probably think of the days when she is supposed to be in school attending classes rather than nursing with her child or enjoying night parties and social gatherings instead of staying up late changing baby’s diapers.  Truly, time shortens and opportunity narrows shortens when one becomes a mother. Priorities and outlook change as responsibilities become numerous. And so, if being a young mother has bittersweet consequences, does that mean that being an older mom is more advantageous?

There are many advantages of being an older mom. For example, if a woman decided to marry by the time she reaches the age of 30, a stable job or successful career is already expected of her. This does not mean that being financially stable is now a measure of one’s capability to parenthood. It only suggests that this aspect cannot be ignored since raising a child can be very expensive. Thus, when a mother has sufficient funds or savings, she has something to incur in times when her child is physically ill or any sort of emergency. Another advantage for older moms is that they already possess the qualities of a mature adult such as sense of responsibility, patience, and being decisive when face with important choices. So it follows then that a mature mom is more patient in disciplining a child and would always hold herself accountable for every action or wrong doing her child commits. An older mom is usually an example of good conduct and morals towards her children since she have grown wiser over the years of good and bad experiences.

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